i haven't gone to the beach yet this summer

but here's a decision-making x swimming metaphor

Morning everyone,

I’m back after a little bit of a break, and I’m working on my decision-making skills:

I eventually tire of the research portion of my overthinking spiral and explore another ring of sources:

(surprise)

And this reminds me of an analogy a different therapist of mine told me, maybe back in 2014 or something. This was a male therapist who mostly worked with teens out of an NYU Langone office, and it feels important to mention that the office was very corporate/clinical and had kids toys in it. I specifically remember a little basketball hoop that sat on his desk. Hilariously not my vibe, but he helped me get through a breakup and then I convinced myself he had a secret crush on me, so needless to say I had to find a different therapist after that. But, one thing that stuck with me (aside from his smile—I’m kidding he was very professional. I can and will convince myself that anyone has a crush on me, especially when it will never be acted on. I live for the tension and delusion.) was an ocean metaphor he compared my situation to:

During times of change, we’re leaving (voluntarily or not) a shoreline that we know. As we swim out into the open water, we can still catch a glimpse of where we came from and it’s tempting to consider swimming back. It’s the only shoreline we see!

And to take it one step further,

Hopefully a comforting one for all the ruminators😗